The subconscious is the part of the mind that stores information from learned experiences, it also controls our breathing and basic body functions, without conscious thought. It is also the place that stores trauma and protects us from what it believes to be situations we can’t handle. What it doesn’t realize is it’s blocking us from living our best lives by keeping us in a place of fear or comfort. The subconscious is formed from ages 0-8 years and is the basis from which we make all of our decisions. It influences our thoughts, our behaviors, our attitudes, everything we are.
When we are children, if bad things happen to us, be it abuse, trauma from an accident, being bit by a dog, seeing someone get hurt, being emotionally traumatized by parents or peers, this all gets held in our subconscious and all decisions we make as well as what we believe in, comes from this subconscious information. Memories stored between the ages of 0 – 8 are held in a space within the subconscious mind referred to as The Inner Child. This is why it is said that we are all just eight years old our entire lives, because the inner child is fully learned and developed by this age, it controls our actions and beliefs throughout life. Of course, as we grow older, we gain insight through new experiences but often times that doesn’t matter because our subconscious is always there, trying to protect us, though on a conscious level we might feel like we are being sabotaged. Limiting beliefs are formed during this time and as adults we might not understand that our beliefs are in fact limited.
The thing the subconscious doesn’t understand is that within our conscious awareness, we know what is good and/or bad for us but because our subconscious rules our behavioral patterns, it will keep bringing us back to places we know on a conscious level we shouldn’t go. A lot of the time this can manifest in poor relationship choices, alienation of others, feelings of abandonment or attachment, high levels of anxiety, lack of trust in those close to us, and many other ways that aren’t good for us.
The subconscious doesn’t understand that when we were seven and being abused by a parent it was bad, it just believes that this bad space is where we need to be to feel safe. Clearly that is not the truth and on a conscious level we know this, but we repeat those patterns of abuse in our adult relationships because the subconscious wants us to feel safe, it’s what it knows, it’s what it seeks out. The same would be true for someone who has had a stellar upbringing, no trauma, lots of love, plenty of food, a peaceful existence. Those people will make choices and live a life based upon what their subconscious knows to be true for them as well.
People who have suffered trauma, and let’s face it, that’s the majority of human beings on this planet, suffer as adults and become hardened and bitter and often times hurt people because they are hurt people.
The good news is the subconscious can be rewired to create peace and harmony within us. We don’t have to live our lives making choices based on a painful, traumatic past, there is a way out. There is a way to heal the whole person so that we may make better choices and live our best lives. There is a way to let go of the past, literally, so that our subconscious learns to make better choices for us as it becomes a more positive player in our game of life.
No one is forced to live the perpetual cycle of their past. You just have to know how to find the way to change. You have to want to change, you have to be willing to do the work and accept the change as well.
I can help guide you in learning how to make these changes so that you can live outside of what your subconscious believes and reprogram it to understand what is better for you, because most of the time what is better for you, is not what the subconscious has been programed to believe.
Through NLP, neuro linguistic programming, you can become the person you want to be, making choices you believe are good for you, lose the anxiety and fear that has been instilled in you, be free of the cycle of bad relationships and abandonment. You can become a whole person and the change is real, it is forever, NLP is not a band aid but a cure to a lot of the trauma that lies within us.
I speak from experience and the knowledge of both how the subconscious works and how NLP has helped me get past the trauma I was holding onto for so long, all the while pleading with the Universe, God, The Creator, to let me live in peace and move past it. All the praying, wanting and wishing in the world can’t change the subconscious, but NLP can.
Let me show you how. Contact me and let’s talk about how NLP can save you, just has it has saved me.